Relational and Attachment Trauma Therapy:
If you have found yourself here, something in your life or relationships may feel out of balance or painfully familiar. Relational and attachment trauma therapy can help.
For many people, these patterns began long before their adult relationships. Growing up with emotionally unavailable, unpredictable or immature parents can shape how you learn to connect, protect and express yourself. When care or love felt conditional, or your emotions were dismissed, you may have learned to stay small, self reliant or overly responsible to keep the peace.
As an adult, that early emotional learning can quietly influence how safe you feel with others. You might find yourself anxious, lonely or stuck in the same painful dynamics, unsure why closeness can feel both longed for and frightening.
These experiences are not your fault. They may be signs that earlier attachment and relational wounds are still shaping how safe and connected you feel today.
Are any of these feelings familiar?
Anxiety or fear of abandonment: You constantly worry that people will leave you, or that you’re not good enough for them to stay, your self-confidence may be low.
Overwhelmed by emotions: Your feelings can sometimes seem too big, too intense, and you don’t know how to manage them.
Loneliness or disconnection: Even in relationships, you might feel isolated, as if there’s an invisible barrier keeping you from truly connecting with others.
Mistrust: It’s hard for you to fully trust others, even those who have shown you love and support.
Fear of intimacy: You might avoid getting too close to others, fearing that vulnerability will lead to hurt or betrayal
Have you ever wondered how your early experiences and relationships have shaped the way you connect today?
This free reflective quiz offers a gentle way to explore your attachment patterns and the feelings that arise in closeness, distance or conflict. It is not a test or a label, but a way to understand yourself with more curiosity and compassion.
Do any of these bevaviours keep showing up?
Clinging or dependency: You might find yourself constantly seeking reassurance, needing to know that others care about you, or feeling panicked if they seem distant. Partners might call you needy
Distancing or hyper-independence: On the flip side, you may avoid getting too close to others out of fear that you’ll be hurt or rejected. Never asking for help.
Unstable relationships: You might notice a cycle of intense closeness followed by sudden distance or breakups, leaving you wondering why relationships never seem to last.
Self-sabotage: Sometimes, just when things are going well, you might do something to push others away, perhaps without even realising it because deep down, intimacy feels too threatening.
Repeating unhealthy patterns: You might notice that you keep finding yourself in the same kinds of relationships. Ones that are unfulfilling, tumultuous, or even harmful and toxic. Ever been told you are in a relationship with a narcissist?
People-pleasing: Perhaps you go out of your way to make others happy, even at your own expense, because you’re afraid they’ll leave you if you don’t. This can lead to those unhealthy friendships or relationships mentioned above.
Overanalysing every interaction: You might replay conversations in your head, looking for signs that someone is upset with you or might leave you.
Pushing people away: You might shut down emotionally, refuse to share your feelings, or become distant when someone gets too close.
Struggling with boundaries: You may have trouble saying “no” or setting limits with others, often putting their needs above your own
These challenges don’t have to define your life.
Relational and attachment trauma therapy can support…
