Maybe You Don’t Need Closure
We talk a lot about closure after difficult relationships. We imagine the final conversation, the honest explanation, the acknowledgement of what happened, or the apology that shows they finally understand the impact they had on us. Perhaps you’ve imagined...
Why Do I Feel Guilty All the Time?
Have you ever apologised when you hadn’t actually done anything wrong? Felt guilty for saying no? Taken responsibility for someone else’s mood? Or spent hours replaying a conversation, wondering whether you upset someone or should have handled things...
Why Are Some Adult Sibling Relationships So Difficult?
“We’ve never really been close.” “My sister always sides with Mum.” “My brother and I seem to remember completely different childhoods.” These are conversations I hear surprisingly often in therapy. Many people feel confused...
Why Do I Keep Ignoring My Own Needs?
Have you ever reached the end of the day and realised everyone else’s needs had been met except your own? You replied to the messages. Helped a colleague. Checked in on a friend. Remembered the school forms, the shopping, the birthday card and the prescription....
The Things You Think Are Personality Flaws. But Your Therapist Sees Differently
“I overthink everything.” “I can’t stop apologising.” “I always assume people are annoyed with me.” “I replay conversations for hours.” These are some of the most common things people say in therapy. They usually...
Feel Like a Child Around My Parents? Here’s Why It Still Happens
You’re driving home from work when your mum calls. The conversation lasts ten minutes. Nothing particularly dramatic happens. She asks about your weekend, questions a decision you’ve made or makes a passing comment that leaves you feeling strangely...
Why January Makes Things Clear
Why January makes things clear often becomes obvious in the very first weeks of the year.The noise of December has stopped. The plans are finished. The constant distraction is gone. And suddenly, many people feel a sharp sense of clarity. Not relief exactly.Not...
Childhood Trauma Christmas: Why the Season Starts to Sting Early
In the run up to Christmas planning In the run up to Christmas planning, let us look at what might be happening beneath the surface as plans are made around you and invitations start to appear. For many people, December begins long before the tree goes up. The group...