Trauma and Over Explaining: 5 Signs It Is a Survival Response
Trauma and over explaining often go together. You find yourself adding disclaimers. Apologising for your tone. Explaining your feelings before anyone even questions them. This is not about being dramatic. It is your nervous system working overtime to stay safe,...
Why You Can’t Relax (Even When Life Is ‘Fine’)
Why You Can’t Relax After Trauma: You’re Safe Now, So Why Do You Still Feel On Edge? You want to relax, but your body won’t let you. You’re not in crisis. No one’s shouting. Your phone hasn’t buzzed with bad news. But your heart is racing, your jaw is clenched, and...
Functioning but Fractured: Why You Feel Broken (But Aren’t)
You look fine. But inside? It’s a different story. You show up, smile, tick the boxes. Maybe you hold a job, raise kids, keep the house going, support everyone else — and people say, “You’re so strong.” But inside, there’s a quiet dread. You’re exhausted. On...
The Fawn Response: Why You Keep People-Pleasing Even When It Hurts
Ever found yourself agreeing with someone just to keep the peace—even when your gut screamed “no”? Or apologising for things that weren’t your fault, just to avoid conflict? Welcome to the fawn trauma response: a survival strategy dressed up as “being...