Trauma and Over Explaining: 5 Signs It Is a Survival Response
Trauma and over explaining often go together. You find yourself adding disclaimers. Apologising for your tone. Explaining your feelings before anyone even questions them. This is not about being dramatic. It is your nervous system working overtime to stay safe,...
Emotional Red Flags Before Going No Contact: What I notice as a therapist.
When we talk about emotional red flags before going no contact, we are not always talking about big fallouts or final showdowns. Often, the signs come quietly. Your body knows before your mind catches up. Many of the women I work with in therapy feel unsure whether...
Why You Can’t Relax (Even When Life Is ‘Fine’)
Why You Can’t Relax After Trauma: You’re Safe Now, So Why Do You Still Feel On Edge? You want to relax, but your body won’t let you. You’re not in crisis. No one’s shouting. Your phone hasn’t buzzed with bad news. But your heart is racing, your jaw is clenched, and...
Functioning but Fractured: Why You Feel Broken (But Aren’t)
You look fine. But inside? It’s a different story. You show up, smile, tick the boxes. Maybe you hold a job, raise kids, keep the house going, support everyone else — and people say, “You’re so strong.” But inside, there’s a quiet dread. You’re exhausted. On...